How To Deal With Difficult People

by - May 24, 2017

Don't 'deal' with them at all.

Difficult people have their own internal issues that you will never be able to fix. Your honest intentions will be twisted and misconstrued because of the illness in their mind that has at this point become terminally toxic. The very fact that they're channeling their anger or trying to start an argument with you proves that.

There's a quote I really like and remind myself of when I am faced with difficult. I'll paraphrase. Despite how open, loving and peaceful you attempt to be, people can only meet you as deeply as they've met themselves.

They're not angry at you even though it seems that way. They're hurting inside for their own deep rooted insecurities and failures. They lack in the cognitive skills to take a step back, look in the mirror or reassess their feelings.

Don't let that be you by responding. Too often I have let other people's issues affect me. The secret is not to react as tempting as it may seem. I very quickly learnt that happy people do not hurt or blame others for their misfortunes.

You may be blamed for something constantly but that's just their twisted way of looking for a solution. A misguided attempt at feeling better. They want to channel their misery on someone and the closest thing they can find is you. 

It will take some time but once you stop responding they will too. When toxicity reaches to death they will even search for reasons to be difficult even when you don't react. The best way is to rid these types of people from your life. If right now you can't you have to find a way to ignore and align yourself with your higher self for your own mental wellbeing. I've learnt to pivot the direction of my thoughts from negative (the ones blaring out to me from the angry person) to positive. I smile. I change direction and continue my daily task as the continue their angry tirade.

At the end of the day I know they are feeling negative energy while I bask in my happiness. Know that your happiness is yours. Nothing can take that away. Here's something I was thinking about while standing by the sea.

Remember that you are not the problem even though it may seem like it to them on then surface. They may even criticise and berate everything that you do. That is another sign that they are unhappy with themselves.

What a powerful feeling it is to know that you are in control of your own happiness. They have their own issues you know you cannot help them with, whether it be failures, rejection or jealousy. While continuing to lead your life the amazing way you want will be an example to them.

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